One of the greatest problems in the world is that most of us feel unloved. Sad as it may seem, this dilemma will continue unless we love ourself. Even as our family and friends love us, we cannot easily experience it when we do not feel any love for ourself. By this, we give the message that we are not worth loving which naturally puts people off, fuelling the problem. The way to begin solving this unloved feeling is to begin recognising our worth. The worth that we give ourself allows others to recognise it in us; if we do not recognise ourself, no one else can. When we love ourself, we feel loved.
Today, do something that is an act of love for yourself. Not as an act of indulgence, which won't make you feel loved - it actually wears you out as much as sacrifice does. Start by taking a close look at yourself. Where can you respect yourself more and give yourself credit? Where can you recognise yourself and really reach out to yourself? What could you do that would be a gift to yourself? Cultivate this attitude. For the most part, you are much harder on yourself than you are on the people around you. Now is the time to give yourself a break and to recognise how much you deserve. If you begin to feel unworthiness or valuelessness, just feel it until it is gone. Don't turn away from the feeling or try to cover it up. The simplest act of healing is to be willing to feel your feelings until they evaporate. Underneath, you may find even more loathsome feelings. Feel them. When they are gone, you will be open to feeling love for yourself as well as receiving love from others.
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